My take on how Covert Narcissists come to be...

These specific type of Narcissists are usually born or influenced by injuries they have incurred usually from other Narcissists. Whether its family or situational. I do think there are also epigenic links that most people don’t realize that they possess. Literal genetic links to how we respond to the world based on our families experiences.

And while I am not giving colonizers a pass(which newsflash..some of my DNA is European)..what I am saying is that they too often..if anything they to have to suppress their own ancestral associations to trauma.

Trauma that is again, not that far off generationally. Honestly, I think we are ALL on the brink of seeing our way out of the trauma. Some of us just have it closer to the surface.

We can be very much like those animals that hope for the best from our abusive caretakers (in all types of forms..even an Extortionist)..only to be hurt again. And then people loop back again with hopes & dreams that this is not the case & things will work out in the end. I think it is definitely the case of post traumatic stress disorder mixed with neurodivergence.

This human experience spans tax brackets and cultures.

I think people have just started to study & communicate about it more broadly because like many other things social media & the internet has made this possible.

I have seen first hand from people close to me, people overcome various degrees of this. This is why people sometimes become “better people” as a whole over their lifetimes. But it takes specific attention for people to take on themselves. A lack of desire to continue to not stay in self destructive patterns and even love for oneself people in these situations people don’t realize they don’t have.